Get to Know the Girl Behind the Blog

Age: 26 My current labels: Demiromantic, Demisexual, Polyamorous, Polysaturated Educational Background: Financial Trading, Public Relations, Management, Bartending, Teaching, Health Care, and other Training. Currently Studying: Coding, Data Entry, Virtual Assisting, Concierge Training, Veterinarian Assisting and French!

Information to note about my labels: Truth About Polyamory I've got questions lately from some of you regarding the stigma around polyamory where some assume, that if you're polyamorous you're looking for friends with benefits or something casual. This stigma comes from the fact that society relates Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Swinging when in fact they couldn’t be more different. Polyamory is made of two words Poly meaning many and Amory meaning loves. by definition, polyamory is the philosophy or state of being in love or romantically involved with more than one person at the same time. Polyamory is not in any way associated with casual hookups, but instead how someone chooses to love and be loved. It means that those who identify as polyamorous can maintain a *serious* relationship with multiple and love them all.

Polyamorous Relationship Boundaries I've received many questions over time regarding personal boundaries in polyamorous relationships by some of you who are interested in polyamory, so I figured I'd take a minute to list some of mine here for you guys for reference. 1.) I prefer to keep my friends and personal relationships separate. (For example: if I've introduced my partner to friends and family I prefer they not bring their other relationships into our circle. ie: my family and friends.) Some may call this parallel polyamory, 2.) Everyone I date is free to date or be involved with anyone they please as long as I’m aware. 3.) I am only interested in romantic relationships regarding polyamory. (please note: If you're reading this to decide how to build your relationship please only use mine as a reference. Some people have more boundaries than others and some have less. It is completely okay to decide what is and isn't comfortable for you. Your partner should be willing to listen, consider, and communicate these things with you! Never be afraid to speak up and share your feelings. Polyamory is amazing but communication is KEY.) another thing I get asked a lot is how to decide on boundaries in poly relationships, and the best advice I have for this is there are two kinds you need to consider. The first kind will be your personal boundaries as I have listed above, and the second kind will be relationship boundaries that you create with your partner. All relationships are different and will have different boundaries etc so they can be decided upon together <3

Polysaturation and Me Hey everyone! I've been getting a lot of questions regarding polysatuation and many of you have asked to know more about it and what it means. First I thought I'd begin by explaining the definition of polysaturation which is: Polysaturated is a word that those who are polyamorous relationships use to mean essentially they have enough relationships at the moment. When someone says that they are polysaturated, they are telling you that they have as many relationships as they want and/or can handle at the moment, and for whatever reason they do not have the time or emotional energy/time for another partner. The reasons that can make someone feel polysaturated can be anything from being too busy to just being content with how their polycule/relationship(s) are at the particular moment or many other reasons. This is also not a constant state and can change with careers, time and other factors, Being polysaturated means that regardless of interest, etc. someone is simply not able to/wanting to pursue another relationship at the current moment in time. editing since I got quite a few questions asking for reasons someone would use the term polysaturated so: 1.) Their needs are currently completely fulfilled in their current relationship(s) leading them to not seek out other partners 2.) They do not have enough free time to give additional partners the attention they deserve. 3.) They do not have the emotional energy for another relationship.

4.) Many others, these reasons are case to case basis and all reasons are valid.

Answering some questions from you guys:<3

1.) Wildest thing you've done? Cliff jumping? maybe. 2.) When did you realize you were polyamorous? I've always basically known, I just didn't know there was a term for it. For some time, I struggled with wondering if I was polyamorous or polyflexible but once I understood more about polysaturation it cleared up a lot for me. I can be happy with 1 or more relationships as long as I feel safe, cared for/appreciated, and happy. 3.) How did your new relationship affect your relationships with other people? My relationship has caused issues with some people due to jealousy but, if people care for you, they'll be happy for what makes you happy. 4.) What does Demiromantic mean to you? Being Demiromantic to me means I have to form a friendship with someone before having romantic attraction toward them. My attraction to others is based on their personality and our vibe. neither of which I can know without establishing a good friendship first. <3 5.) What Does Demisexual mean to you? Demisexual to me means I need to be on a certain level of romantic relationship and comfort level with someone before I feel any sexual attraction to them. Or would ever consider being involved with them sexually. Call it old school but if we aren't married; I'm not interested in that. 6.) Would you date a bisexual guy? Of course, I don't see why not! 7.) People are strange? Yes, people are very strange, but that's what makes them interesting. 8.) Can I add you on steam or should I wait for your reply first? Go ahead and add me! 9.) When is your birthday? November! 10.) Do you ever get jealous? If so how do you deal with it? Of course, it is completely natural to be jealous occasionally, but it is all about how you handle it. If I find a situation is causing me consistent discomfort and jealousy to an extent that interferes with my happiness; I have a conversation with my partner(s) and if needed I reevaluate how to make the situation healthier for me. Communicate is always key <3 11.) Do you enjoy one person's company over the other? Assuming you mean this in terms of polyamory and concerning partners. Then the answer is it depends. I tend to prefer the company of people who prefer mine. So, if I am in a relationship where one partner prioritizes me more than another yes, I'll prefer their company. That rule tends to follow through with most connections I have no matter the kind though, I do my best to match energy. <3 12.) Do you prefer men or women? Men.